Today I want to talk about this epidemic of NEVER FEELING GOOD ENOUGH know matter how much you have achieved.
One of my great teachers lived in Kenya until he was twelve. He witnessed the Masai people walking with their heads held HIGH, never doubting their self -worth
Then he came to England, Birmingham to be precise, and he was flabbergasted at how many people seemed to be walking round with their heads bowed, LACKING IN SELF- CONFIDENCE, it seemed totally alien to him.
If this is you, tell me, do you try to please people at the EXPENSE of your own needs and then ends up feeling resentful? Do you constantly doubt yourself and are easily swayed by others' opinions?
Do you WORRY about what other people think of you and get upset if you thinks someone doesn't you? Do you avoid confrontation at all costs and NEVER speak up for yourself. Do you bottle up your emotions, like there is a pressure cooker building up inside you?
Are you afraid that if people saw the real you, they will DISAPPROVE of you, so you put on a MASK and never feel like you can really be yourself, which in turns mean you can't feel close to anyone?
Do you tend to attract people who TAKE ADVANTAGE of you? Do you feel UNAPPRECIATED and UNDERVALUED?
Do you feel STRESSED and ANXIOUS, often with stomach churning or chest palpitations, or a tight throat, like you can't get words out? Or your head is in a fog and you can't think straight?
I know this feeling so well. It USED TO BE ME. I was constantly trying to PROVE MYSELF but always falling short, comparing myself to others and always feeling inferior, less than and anxious, exhausted and demoralised.
And don't you think you bloody well DESERVE BETTER? ( Excuse my French!) There is a brilliant person inside who has been struggling to express herself. IT'S TIME to let her out!
Don't you think you deserve to feel HAPPY and CAREFREE and enjoy your life? To look forward to WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIPS, to feel happy in your own skin, relaxed, holding your head up high, secure in yourself, to feel capable and IN CONTROL of your life? Don't you think you deserve to be EXCITED ABOUT THIS NEXT CHAPTER, living a life that is true to you?
The thing is it's NOT YOUR FAULT that you feel like this.
You have absorbed so much NEGATIVE stereotyping.
Did you know that the beauty business, for example thrives on making women especially FEEL DISSATISFIED with the way they look?
We are PROGRAMMED from an early age to equate our self -worth with having a good job, a nice house an ideal relationship… the list goes on
And we believe it, this belief settles deep in our SUBCONSCIOUS and in the CELLS OF OUR BODY, it affects our life and that of those around us.
And the TRUTH is unless you have an INHERENT sense of self- worth, you can carry on striving and achieving but you will never feel good enough.
All the advertising companies are LYING, feeling good enough, can only come from within, not from having or doing anything, and that, dear friends, we are not taught!
Then, as if that wasn't bad enough, the MYTHS OF THE MIDLIFE WOMAN come along and batter us even further down, until we feel INVISIBLE…
But this is such a WASTE of your life and I know you have so much more to offer, but from a place of STRENGTH, NOT NEEDING TO PROVE ANYTHING. Offering because it's your way of expressing your unique qualities.
I have helped many women like you…
JENNY in her fifties, felt useless and now feels more fulfilled than she ever has, BARBARA in her seventies, found herself more depressed with each passing birthday and now has more spring in her step than most thirty year olds, SUSAN and LIZ in their fifties, felt trapped in their life situations and now have broken free…
They didn't have any special talents, it wasn't a miracle, I simply took them through a PROCESS.
First, they learned to properly RELAX
Then they learned how to REPROGRAM, replacing all the unhelpful beliefs with ones that SUPPORTED and UPLIFTED them.
They learned to REALIGN with their calm and balanced centre, so that they knew they always had a SAFE PORT IN A STORM
Then they connected with their own PURPOSE, whether that was simply making daily decisions based on what was important to them, treating themselves with love and care, or a bigger life change.
This purpose gave them a sense of STRENGTH and BELONGING and as their relationship with themselves improved, so did their relationship with those around them.
A lot of people feel scared and mystified about what their purpose is, but really it's just about feeling relaxed and confident and allowing your true self that has been buried to emerge.
ANYONE can do this process, it's not complicated or mysterious, it's just about having the structure and support you need, then simply taking a small step every day
Your programming was not you fault, but it is your responsibility to take ACTION now
I want you to be able OFFER THE WORLD the things that only you can offer. I want you to wake up EXCITED and eager about your day and let that AMAZING person within you free!
But you have to take THE FIRST STEP. Get in touch
and BOOK A FREE CALL with me today – I call it a 'TRUE TO YOU' call, where I can get to know YOU better and we can discuss together how to BREAK YOU FREE from the pain you are in and create the life you have been yearning for.
You really have nothing to lose and EVERYTHING to gain.
Look forward to hearing from you!